Can you recognize this line of thinking:

To have sex (solo or with a partner) I must feel spontaneously turned on and horny, the mood must be just right, there must be no emotional tension (internally with myself or externally between my partner and me), the temperature must be ideal, the lighting must be appropriate. I must not feel hungry or too full. I expect to be turned on immediately or it's a failure and it won't work. And if all these things match and are just as I need, I should feel lots of pleasure and easily have an orgasm, in the second I want.

And yes, we're exaggerating a bit, maybe you're not thinking ALL of these things, but just a few of them. Or maybe you think all of them.

No matter what. We invite you to laugh at this silly mind game. Your brain is literally playing tricks on you to prevent you from enjoying a wonderfully imperfect sexual encounter with yourself or a lover.

In order to have amazing experiences, experience lots of pleasure and have the best orgasms of your life, you have to be willing to have less amazing experiences, experience low levels of pleasure sometimes, have "meh" orgasms and also experience the absence of orgasms.

Demanding perfect conditions before even starting sex/enjoyment, and then expecting the perfect experience - is simply an awful lot of pressure to put on your poor body, and a guaranteed way to be disappointed.

Your body doesn't need all that pressure.

It needs to feel that it's okay to be imperfect.

And if you allow yourself to have these less than ideal experiences, I bet your body and majou will reward you with the most surprising mind-blowing pleasure and orgasms when you least expect it.

So the questions for yourself could be:

What would it look like to welcome imperfection into your sex life?

Isn't it time to be imperfect and fabulous!!?

Love from MAJOU