BDSM fetish and kinks

The BDSM universe is vast and diverse. There are many ways to experience kink. The deeper one explores the realms of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism, the more endless this universe seems in terms of activities and variations within kink. For those who want a comprehensive list of BDSM fetishes and kinks, there is a useful resource available.

This kink chart offers an easy-to-understand, visual representation of most recognized BDSM activities.

In this article, we will not only review the contents of the table, but also provide a brief description of the different aspects of the BDSM world.

Primary BDSM elements

Bondage:

The art and pleasure of being bound, for the purpose of sexual and/or psychological gratification.

Sadism/Masochism:

To obtain sexual and/or psychological gratification by consensually inflicting or receiving pain and suffering. These concepts originate from the well-known historical figures Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch.

Vanilla

Sex toys:

Sex toys are tools specifically designed for sexual pleasure and can be used alone or with a partner. They can enhance mutual masturbation, foreplay, or be used during intercourse.

Lingerie:

Lingerie refers to undergarments and nightwear with an erotic design. It is made of tactile and attractive materials such as lace, satin, silk, leather or PVC. Sexy lingerie is intended to enhance the presentation of the body for personal enjoyment or to please a partner.

Masturbation:

Masturbation is the act of sexually satisfying oneself using fingers or sex toys specifically designed for self-stimulation.

Oral sex:

Oral sex involves the use of the mouth and tongue to provide sexual pleasure to a partner's genitals, typically focusing on the vulva and clitoris, the penis and testicles, or the anal area during rimming/analingus.

Striptease:

A striptease is a performance in which clothing is slowly and sensually removed, often to music, to tease and sexually excite the audience.

Tantric Sex:

Tantric sex is an ancient Hindu practice of shared sexual pleasure that focuses on weaving and expanding energy. Practiced for over 5,000 years, it promotes intimacy and heightened sensuality, leading to more powerful orgasms through a slow and deliberate sexual experience.

Tickling:

Tickling can act as a form of sexual stimulation, ranging from light, titillating touches to intense sensations. It can be erotic when performed with fingers or feather ticklers, and for some, tickling itself can become a fetish (known as knismolagnia).

Nipple play:

Nipple play involves sexual stimulation of the nipples, which are highly sensitive erogenous zones filled with nerve endings. Various methods can be used, including fingers, tongue, teeth, or toys like nipple clips and sucking toys to deliver erotic stimulation.

Handcuffs:

Fluffy handcuffs are often seen from a vanilla perspective and are a popular introductory product for those exploring kinkier practices like bondage. They often appear in pop culture and symbolize a playful approach to sexual exploration without deep knowledge of the BDSM world.

Sensation

Nuru Massage:

Nuru is a Japanese form of massage in which both participants are naked. The person giving the Nuru massage rubs their naked body over the naked body of the recipient with the help of a specially formulated massage gel. This highly intimate form of massage provides intense visual, mental and physiological stimulation, leading to psychological and physical gratification and/or sexual arousal.

Cupping:

Cupping is an ancient form of Chinese medicine that has been embraced by some in the BDSM community for its sensual erotic benefits. Cups or bowls are used to create an area of ​​suction on the skin, and this can be done over erogenous zones such as the clitoris, breasts/nipples, inner thighs, and other locations to increase arousal.

Electro Sex:

Electrosex is the practice of stimulating areas of the body using electrical currents through specially designed equipment such as electro-pads and electro-sex toys. This can be done for pleasure or consensual pain.

Edge Play:

Edgeplay is an umbrella term that refers to physical or psychological experiences that go beyond the traditional SSC style of BDSM power exchange. It falls under one of the other styles: RACK. Examples of edgeplay include certain heightened types of wax play and temperature play, knife play, fire play, breath play, cutting, and barebacking.

Waxing:

Wax play (sometimes written as wax-play) is a BDSM practice in which melted wax is dripped onto the body of a consenting partner for sensory benefits and/or sexual arousal. It can be combined with bondage for a more intense experience. Care should be taken to only use wax play candles and wax drip pots specifically designed for these sessions.

Knife game:

Knife play in BDSM involves activities involving the use of knives. The objects used may include swords and daggers as well as knives. They provide the consenting submissive partner with an element of fear which enhances sensory stimulation. This is achieved through physical methods such as scratching the skin, cutting away clothing or removing wax after wax play, or psychologically through threats with or without the use of a blindfold.

Temperature game:

Another broad term used to describe the use of objects and liquids in a BDSM session that are heated or cooled for a more intense sensual experience. This includes fire play, ice play, wax play, the use of heated or cooled glass dildos, metal sex toys, and bondage accessories. Blindfolds are often used to intensify the effects, while being tied up during the session can enhance the experience.

Fire play:

Fire play involves the use of a flame on or near the skin of a consenting partner to create physical and psychological arousal and to enhance the overall power exchange session. It is considered edge play due to the various risks associated with it. The goal is not to burn or leave marks, but simply to enjoy an enhanced sensual session with fire. Tools used may include fire sticks, burning gloves, or whips.

Sex acts

Cream Pies:

To enjoy the sight of a vagina from which freshly ejaculated semen is leaking out, and/or to consume the semen that has just been ejaculated into the vagina.

Deep Throating:

Taking the penis all the way to the back of the throat and a little further during blowjob.

Bareback:

Vaginal or anal sexual intercourse between people of any gender without the use of barrier protection such as condoms.

Bukkake:

Where a person receives multiple loads of semen over their face and body delivered by a ring of ejaculating spectators around them.

Fisting:

To stimulate the vagina or anal area by penetration with a clenched or open hand.

Double penetration:

Often abbreviated to DP, double penetration is when someone is sexually penetrated by two people or objects at the same time. There are different ways this can happen, such as simultaneous penetration of the vagina and anus, mouth and vagina/anus (also known as spit roast), anus by two penises or toys at once (DAP), or vagina by two penises or toys at once (DVP).

Cum Shot:

A representation of the moment of ejaculation from a penis, as you might see in vanilla porn (facials, etc.) or bukkake movies. The cum shot can also be on the recipient's butt, breasts, back, or another area of ​​their body.

Water sports:

Sexual activities involving urine or urination, which includes, but is not limited to, golden showers.

Group sex:

Sexual activity involving more than two people. This can range from soft swinging and threesomes to large sex parties and orgies.

Rusty Trombone:

The act of rimming someone (giving anal oral sex/analingus) while reaching between their legs to simultaneously give them a handjob (masturbating their penis).

Anal:

Sexual stimulation or penetration of the anus. This can be with a penis (or two!), anal sex toys like butt plugs and prostate massagers, or rimming/analingus.

Squirting:

Squirting usually refers to the specific ejaculate from the urethra of a person with a vagina, which is caused by sexual stimulation – and which is not urine. The term 'squirting' refers specifically to this type of sexual ejaculation, as opposed to that from a penis.

Tea bagging:

Lowering your testicles onto someone's face by assuming a squat position over them without actually sitting on their face.

Felching:

Similar to cream pies, except it is the anal area that is filled with semen, which is 'eaten' during analingus.

Snowballing:

To pass semen between mouths, usually during kissing.

Pompoir:

Using the muscles of the vagina to stimulate the penis in an undulating motion while the participants remain still. This is most easily achieved when the person with the vagina is on top of the person with the penis. The sensation has been compared to milking.

Public Sex:

Having sex or receiving sexual stimulation in a public place. These sex locations can include private places where those involved run the risk of being seen or 'caught' to increase the excitement, such as a yard/garden, balcony, a quiet street or field, etc. It can also refer to more public places such as cinemas, shopping malls, beaches, or during travel, such as on an airplane.

Autopederasty:

The extremely rare ability and practice of a person with a penis to be able to penetrate their own anus with it.

Domination

Tease & Denial:

Tease and denial involves creating sexual arousal through teasing, combined with denial of climax, release, and relief through orgasm.

Cuckolding:

Cuckoldry within BDSM is enjoying being present/monitoring/being aware that one's romantic and/or BDSM partner is having sex with someone else – or being the one who 'cuckolds' one's partner or submissive in this way.

Forced Feminization:

The practice of dressing a partner in traditionally feminine clothing and telling them to behave in a stereotypically feminine manner for mutual sexual/psychological pleasure and fulfillment of submissive needs. There is often a humiliating element involved as well, justifying the 'forced' in the name, despite all activities being actively consented to. Also known as sissification.

Orgasm Denial:

Denying a kinky partner orgasms for mutual sexual/psychological fulfillment. This can be done by obeying and submitting to the dominant person's command, or with the addition of a physical barrier to orgasmic release, such as a chastity device.

Slave Training:

Training a submissive to become a slave, in the specific way that the dominant partner desires.

Forced Orgasms:

Forced orgasms involve demanding that the submissive partner bring themselves to orgasm, one or more times, or actively stimulating the person to orgasm by the dominant person or a tool/machine of their choice. For example, the dominant person may hold a magic wand vibrator against the genitals of the submissive, who may be bound in bondage, to intensify the sensations until they are 'forced' to orgasm.

Male Dominance:

Self-explanatory: the consensual enjoyment of a male dominant partner.

Small Penis Humiliation:

The pleasure of humiliating a like-minded, consenting partner about the (real, imagined, or fantasized) small size of their penis, or of receiving pleasure from being the target of this humiliation.

Queening (Facesitting):

Facesitting is the kinky practice of sitting on or hovering over another person's face, applying pressure to them from the sitter's bare or clothed genital area, or simply their scent and proximity. It can also be performed to allow or force oral service from the 'sittee' to the desired area of ​​the genital region of the 'sitter'.

Sissification:

Similar to 'forced feminization' above, but with more emphasis on the humiliation aspect rather than a true representation of a stereotypical woman by the submissive partner. Imposed clothing is likely to be more costume-like, with pink satin, large bows, ribbons, lace and flashy accessories often prominent.

Sexual Humiliation:

The practice and enjoyment of humiliating someone, consensually, through a variety of methods and activities.

Sensory Deprivation:

Temporary removal of one or more senses to increase arousal and intensify the experience. BDSM sensory deprivation is often achieved through the use of accessories such as blindfolds and total sensory deprivation hoods.

Torture

Ball Busting:

Inflicting intense pain and suffering on the testicles through various methods. This may include kicking, trampling, using implements such as whips, paddles, and whips, or by placing the testicles in a vice, for example.

Nipple Torture:

Nipple pain, which can be performed in a variety of ways and with a variety of tools. This may include, but is not limited to, nipple clamps, weights, needles, suction devices, BDSM pinwheels, teeth, or fingers/nails.

Cock and Ball Torture (CBT):

Often abbreviated to CBT (but not to be confused with cognitive behavioral therapy!), pain is inflicted on the penis and testicles of the willing recipient in a variety of ways. Unlike ball busting, where the pain is generally associated with hard impact, cock and ball torture can be performed more gradually using tools such as humblers, weighted cock rings, spiked cock rings, the application of irritants, or by being twisted and manhandled.

Ball Stretching:

The practice, whether for consensual pain or pleasure, of stretching the testicles away from the body. This is often done using specific tools for the purpose, such as ball stretcher rings, weights, and similar accessories.

Clit Torture:

Clitoral based pain inflicted through various methods and implements, such as: irritating topical gels, clips and clamps, pressure, squeezing, hitting, suction devices, ice cubes, tickling, whipping/spanking, and predicament bondage that results in unavoidable pressure on the clitoris.

Cock Whipping:

Self-explanatory: the practice of whipping a penis.

Cock Trampling:

Trampling over the willing recipient's penis, either in shoes or bare feet.

Ball Crushing:

The practice of extreme compression of the testicles for sexual/psychological pleasure. This can be done by hand, or by foot trampling – or using a specific tool for the purpose, such as a vice.

Holding

Chastity:

Abstinence from orgasm and sex, either self-imposed or at the request of a dominant partner. This can be done with or without the use of chastity devices such as a chastity cage.

Gags:

A device worn in or over the mouth to prevent speech and to increase the bondage and humiliation aspect. Types of kinky mouth gags include ball gags, bit gags, dildo gags, ring gags, inflatable gags, dentist gags and many more.

Kinbaku:

A Japanese style of bondage. The word means “tight binding.” This style of bondage is visually intricate and is performed with multiple pieces of thin, natural fiber bondage gear. In Western BDSM, we often refer to this as Shibari.

Collaring:

Placing a BDSM collar around the neck of a submissive. While the application and use of a collar may only be a small part of a D/s play scene, in other contexts it can be a more meaningful and symbolic act that seals the relationship between owner and submissive. There are collaring ceremonies in BDSM that can be compared to weddings.

Shibari:

As mentioned earlier, this is a Japanese style of bondage. Known as Kinbaku in Japanese, the Western BDSM scene refers to this visually intricate style as Shibari bondage. This word has a broader meaning in Japanese; it means "binding" or "binding" in a variety of contexts.

Breast Bondage:

Restraining and binding of the breasts for sexual/psychological gratification. This can be done with ropes, clamps, braces, and other specialized accessories.

Suspension:

To raise a person to a suspended position while they are bound. Precautions must be taken to only use frames designed for suspension bondage, or that the ceiling or beam you attach the hoist to is secure enough to safely support a bound person.

Mummification:

Wrapping a person completely, in the style of ancient Egyptian mummies, to completely prevent movement. A variety of materials can be used for this, including plastic wrap, cloth, bandages, rubber bands, duct tape, plaster casts, body bags, or straitjackets.

Hog Tie:

Freedom of movement is severely restricted in a 'hog tied' position (all four limbs are chained together, either on the back or on the stomach). This gives the consenting submissive an appealing heightened state of vulnerability.

Human Furniture:

Also known as forniphilia. The pleasure of being viewed and used as a piece of furniture, such as a footstool, table, tray, chair, or other inanimate furniture object.

Medical Douching:

The introduction of water or other fluids into a body orifice (usually vaginal or anal) to be swirled around and then expelled, for the purpose of cleansing and/or to provide sensory pleasure. This is done with a vaginal or anal douche.

Enemas:

The introduction of water or other fluids into the anal cavity, which may be expelled immediately or held for a period of time chosen by the dominant using a plug or other suitable device.

Urethral Sounding:

Urethral sounds are specialized instruments designed to be inserted into the urethra of a person with a penis. They are usually made of a body-safe metal, can have different diameters, and have different types of tips.

Urethral sounding is intensely stimulating. There are even electrosex sounds for greater intensity and layered forms of stimulation.

Penis Pumping:

Using a penis pump for sensory pleasure – or being 'forced' to use one/have one used on you as part of a dominance/submission scene. The intense stimulation of the penis can be overwhelming and lead to physical and mental torture.

Needle Play:

The use of needles in a BDSM context to provide physical and psychological stimulation. This form of play piercing or recreational acupuncture is done for pleasure rather than leading to permanent body piercing or decoration. Any piercing accessories such as needles are removed after the scene to allow the skin to heal. Can lead to an intense natural endorphin high or even orgasm for fans of needle play.

Catheter Play:

Catheter play is most often practiced on people with penises, due to the relative ease of inserting objects into this type of urethral opening. Catheters are flexible tubes that are inserted in this manner to provide the sensation of something being inserted into the body, as well as loss of control over bladder emptying. If the catheter is blocked, there is no way to relieve pressure in the bladder by urinating, no matter how desperate the urge becomes.

Scrotal Inflation:

The enjoyment of the visual and sensory impressions of stretching the scrotum, which is usually achieved by injecting liquid or sometimes air/gas into the scrotum. This is a risky practice.

Impact

Spanking:

The practice of giving a slap to the one in the submissive role, usually by hand slap/over the knee (OTK) slap. Those involved receive physical and psychological fulfillment, and there may also be a strong feeling of sexual arousal, although this is not always the case.

Caning:

To inflict pain on relatively safe areas of the submissive person's body (buttocks, fleshy backs of the thighs) using a spanking rod.

Flogging:

To inflict physical punishment on fleshy areas of the recipient's body using a BDSM flogger. This is a multi-tailed whip where the tails can be long or short.

Flagellation:

An umbrella term to describe the beating of the body for masochistic/sadistic purposes in BDSM using a variety of corporal punishment tools. These may include, but are not limited to, floggers, tawses, crops, paddles, whips, switches, and other whipping objects.

Whipping:

Corporal punishment using BDSM whips. This can be a single-tailed whip like a bull whip or multi-tailed in style. The term 'whipping' usually implies a heavier style of punishment than 'flogging', which can be done in a light, sensual and playful way – as well as in a more brutal way.

Paddling:

Corporal punishment using spanking paddles. Paddles are handheld, flat implements that can be lightweight (leather-wrapped) or heavier in style (wood or metal). Paddling the balls of a submissive partner leads to sadistic and masochistic pleasure for both parties, with related visual impressions of flushed cheeks. Using a paddle is another way to give a spanking.

Role Play

Cross-Dressing:

Dressing in traditional garments of a gender different from one's own for psychological fulfillment and/or sexual pleasure.

Adult Baby:

Part of the broader ageplay fetish. Also known as ABDL (Adult Babies/Diaper Lovers).

Furries:

To enjoy role-playing as an anthropomorphic animal. Those in the 'furry fandom' often have a specific animal-based identity and may also wear the appropriate outfit or costume to enhance their 'furry' related experiences, activities, and encounters with others in the 'scene'. Furries may enjoy this fetish for psychological fulfillment, for sexual arousal, simply for fun – or all of the above.

Pony Play:

A subcategory of animal role-playing where one partner takes on the role of a pony, while the other is usually their handler or rider. This fetish can be enjoyed without accoutrements, but accessories such as crops, riding whips, pony head harnesses, bit gags, reins, stirrups, saddles, butt plug tails, and even hoof-like footwear are often used.

Puppy Play:

Like pony play, this area of ​​animal role-playing focuses on the consenting fetishist taking on the role of a puppy. Puppy play can simply involve power exchanges and activities through posture and vocal commands, but accessories such as collars, dog heads, dog tail plugs, and the like are often used for a more dramatic and intense experience.

Kitten Play:

Animal role-playing, where the consenting fetishist assumes the role of a kitten. Accessories such as tail plugs, collars, ears, and costumes can be used to intensify the pleasure derived from the role-playing session.

Pig Play:

Where the consenting fetishist takes on the role of a pig or piglet. Accessories include collars, curly pig tails, trotter bondage gloves and 'piggy' heads and masks.

Butt Stuff

Rimming:

Using the tongue to provide sexual stimulation in and around the anus (analingus). In recent years, sex toys have been created to try to recreate the sensation, such as the B-Vibe Rimming Butt Plug.

Pegging:

Using a strap-on dildo anally on another person, for mutual kink fulfillment and/or sexual pleasure.

Cake Farts:

An offshoot of a flatulence fetish that became popular through a notorious 2008 website that featured a video clip of a porn actor farting on a frosted cake. Therefore, cake farts fetish is, as it sounds, the act of farting on a cake (where the backside or anus is in contact with the cake). This may be for sensory pleasure or sexual arousal for the farter, the viewer, or both.

Prostate Massage:

The practice of massaging the prostate gland for sexual pleasure, to 'milk' it for kink fulfillment or health reasons, or as part of broader sexual play. The prostate gland is found a few inches inside the rectum of a cisgender man. P-spot massage can be performed with fingers (with or without gloves), but is often easier with the use of a specially designed prostate massager and some compatible lubricant.

Prostate Milking:

As touched upon with prostate massage, prostate milking is the act of massaging the prostate gland until fluid is released that comes out of the penis (prostatic fluid, which is basically ejaculate without sperm). This can be done for one's own pleasure, as part of a wider D/s power exchange scenario, or for health reasons. Again, this practice is often found easier with the use of a specially designed prostate stimulator due to the location of the prostate gland.

Figging:

Figging is the practice of inserting some peeled ginger into the anal or vaginal area for sado-masochistic reasons. This can be for one's own kinky pleasure or requested by the consenting submissive partner as part of a broader D/s power exchange scenario. The peeled ginger induces a burning sensation in these sensitive areas. Figging was first used outside the BDSM sphere as a form of punishment for female slaves in ancient Greece.

Anal Stretching:

To enjoy the sensation and/or visual impression of stretching the anal entrance for kinky fulfillment. Anal stretching can be achieved with fingers and then fisting over time, or anal sex toys and tools such as fisting dildos, monster butt plugs, and anal spreader devices such as tunnel plugs, 'blossoming bud' style plugs, and inflatable anal plugs.

Anal Gaping:

In addition to anal stretching, anal gaping is the pleasure of forcing the anus to gape. The sensation of having a gaping anus or seeing your consenting partner's anus gape is extremely arousing for fans of this fetish. Unlike stretching, where the anus returns to a tight closure, the anus remains open for a period of time during anal gaping. Some people also enjoy experiencing and watching anal prolapse.

Miscellaneous

Feeders:

A feeder derives pleasure from feeding large amounts of food to their consenting partner, often with the goal of making them gain weight. Feeders may enjoy the process of feeding and 'fattening' their partner, or in relation to a sexual attraction to heavier or fuller individuals.

Sploshing:

Sploshing is the pleasure of using various foods and other sticky, gooey, or slippery materials over and inside the body, with or without clothing on. The physical sensation of having food and liquids poured over the body and sliding around inside them induces sexual arousal for fans of this fetish.

Tentacle Sex:

A sexual interest in or fascination with tentacles, whether it be watching related porn or including tentacle sex toys and the like in sex.

Nyotaimori:

Also known as 'body sushi', this is the Japanese tradition of serving sushi or sashimi on the body of a naked woman. With a naked man, it is called Nantaimori. The naked person is expected to lie completely still throughout the meal, and there is no conversation between the guests and the person adorned with the food.

Oculolinctus:

Also known as 'worming', this practice is the act of licking a partner's eyes or having one's own eyes licked for the purpose of achieving sexual arousal and gratification. In 2013, it was reported in various newspapers that this fetish had become popular in Japan; however, other media outlets reported that the existence of this fetish was a hoax.

Gut Flopping:

Where a person with a large belly lifts it and lets it 'fall' onto their partner, creating a smacking or slapping sound. The physical sensation, plus the visual and auditory stimulus, is sexually arousing for fans of this fetish.